Level UP with Coach M - Edition 4 - Rewriting Your Personal Narrative

Changing the Story You Tell Yourself Okay, let’s slow down for a second and talk about something that quietly shapes your decisions, your confidence, your relationships, and honestly… your entire life:

The story you tell yourself about who you are.

It’s wild, right? We don’t even realize we’re doing it. But in the background of your mind, there’s a narrative running all the time.

A little voice saying things like:

• “I’m the type of person who never follows through.”

• “I’m too sensitive.”

• “I’m not cut out for leadership.”

• “I’m always the one who gets overlooked.”

• “I’m not the smart one… I’m the ‘whatever’ one.”
  

And you know what’s even crazier? We say these things to ourselves like they’re facts — when really, they’re just stories we absorbed from the past.

But here’s the good news — and it’s actually REALLY good news:

Stories can change. They’re allowed to change. And YOU get to rewrite yours.

Not in a “fake it till you make it” kind of way. Not in a cheesy, overly-positive affirmation kind of way.

I mean actually rewriting the deeper story that shapes how you see yourself.

Let’s dive in, gently and honestly.

🌿 What Is a Personal Narrative (in real-human terms)?

Your personal narrative is basically the way you explain YOU to yourself.

It includes:

• who you think you are

• what you think you’re capable of

• what you believe you're allowed to have

• how you think other people see you

• what you expect from your life
  

It sounds big, but it’s actually built from tiny moments — things people said to you, things you experienced, things that hurt, things that confused you, things that stuck with you longer than they should’ve.

And sometimes the story got written when you were too young to understand what was happening. Or too overwhelmed. Or too scared. Or too eager to be accepted.

So the story starts sounding like:

• “I’m the responsible one.”

• “I’m the difficult one.”

• “I’m the shy one.”

• “I’m the one who always gets things wrong.”

• “I’m the one who keeps quiet.”

And even when we grow, we carry that old description like it's tattooed on us forever.

But here’s the truth:

You’re not required to keep a story that no longer fits you.

🌼 Why It Matters to Rewrite Your Narrative

Here’s why this matters so much:

Your story becomes your filter.

If your story is:

“People don’t take me seriously,”then in any interaction, you’ll be searching for proof of that.

If your story is:

“I’m bad at relationships,”you’ll focus on moments when you feel insecure and ignore moments when you show strength.

If your story is:

“I’m not lucky,”you’ll overlook opportunities that ARE right in front of you.

The story becomes the lens.And the lens becomes the reality.

But here’s the twist:If your story changes, your lens changes.And when your lens changes, your life changes — even if nothing else around you does.

🧩 Where Do These Old Stories Come From?

Let’s be real — you didn’t just wake up one day and choose a limiting story. Most narratives come from:

1. Childhood labels

“You’re the shy one.” “You’re dramatic.” “You’re not good at math.” “You’re too sensitive.” “You’re the peacekeeper.”

Even the “positive” labels can cage you.

2. Old failures

You failed once or twice, and suddenly the story became: “I guess I’m not good at this.”

But maybe you were just inexperienced. Or unsupported. Or exhausted. Or dealing with something no one else knew about.

3. Hurtful relationships

Sometimes someone who was supposed to love you ended up shaping you with criticism, neglect, or emotional distance.

And now that voice sounds like your own… but it isn’t.

4. Repeated patterns

If something happens more than once, your brain makes a story about it.

But repetition doesn’t equal truth.

5. Fear

When we’re scared, we shrink our story to protect ourselves.

But the shrinking becomes normal.

🌙 How to Rewrite Your Narrative — Slowly, Gently

Rewriting your story doesn’t mean pretending everything is great. It means telling the truth — the full truth — not just the part that hurts.

Here’s how to begin.

⭐ 1. Catch your “old story moments.”

Start noticing when you say:

• “I always…”

• “I never…”

• “I’m the type of person who…”

• “Of course this happened… it’s me.”

• “That’s just who I am.”

These are story clues.

They’re like signs pointing to a belief you’ve been carrying around without questioning.

⭐ 2. Ask: ‘Who told me this story?’

This is powerful.

Sometimes you realize:

• “This isn’t even my belief.”

• “Someone else put this on me.”

• “This story belongs to a younger version of me.”

• “This was one hard moment… not a life truth.”

Once you see that, the story loosens its grip.

⭐ 3. Rewrite the narrative in a way that feels honest AND hopeful

Here’s where people get stuck — they think rewriting means lying.

Nope.

You don’t go from: “I’m insecure” to “I’m the most confident person ever!”

Instead, you go to: “I’m learning to be kinder to myself.” “I’m working on speaking up more.” “I’m practicing confidence in small ways.” “I’m growing.”

Honest. Gentle. Believable.

⭐ 4. Look for evidence that supports the NEW story

Your brain is trained to spot proof of the old narrative. So now you train it to spot proof of the new one.

If your new story is: “I’m capable,” then proof might be:

• that problem you solved last week

• the way you showed up today even though you were tired

• a moment you didn’t quit

• something you learned

• a time someone appreciated you

These tiny “wins” become the bricks of your new story.

⭐ 5. Do small actions that match your new narrative

The story gets real through action — tiny, tiny actions.

If your new narrative is:“I am becoming more confident,”your actions might be:

• saying your opinion once

• making eye contact

• sending an email without overthinking it

• speaking up one more time than you would’ve before

If your new narrative is:“I deserve good things,”your actions might be:

• not apologizing for saying no

• resting when you’re tired

• asking for clarification instead of pretending

• letting someone help you

The action doesn’t have to be big — it just has to be aligned.

🌟 What Happens When You Rewrite Your Story

Here’s the beautiful part:

As your story changes, your decisions change. As your decisions change, your habits change. As your habits change, your life changes.

Suddenly you:

• feel more capable

• take more healthy risks

• say yes to things you always avoided

• say no to things you tolerated for too long

• treat yourself with more respect

• attract different people

• see possibilities you used to miss
  

You become someone you actually recognize and like.

Not a perfect person. Not a totally transformed superhero. Just a more aligned, true-to-yourself version of you.

And that’s enough to shift everything.

💛 A Final Gentle Reminder

You don’t have to keep living inside a story that was written during the hardest parts of your life.

You don’t have to be the character someone else decided you should be.

You don’t have to carry narratives that were created by fear, pain, or old survival patterns.

You are allowed — deeply allowed — to ask: “Who am I now?” “Who do I want to become?” “What story fits the person I am growing into?”

You are the author of your life. You’re allowed to edit. You’re allowed to rewrite. You’re allowed to evolve.

And your new story can start today — with one small line, one small shift, one small moment of choosing a kinder, truer version of you. Have a great week! chat to you all next week!