Level up with Coach M - Edition 2 - 💬 The Power of Talking Nicely to Yourself

The Power of Talking Nicely to Yourself (and Why Your Body Will Thank You)

Heluu everyone!

Can we just take a second — how are we in the last week of September already? Like… excuse me, who pressed the fast-forward button on 2025? One minute we were writing down resolutions (probably involving eating more greens and less cookies), and now the Halloween candy and Christmas stockings has been in the shops for three weeks and Full disclosure... I’ve already eaten my “future self’s” stash.

But today, let’s talk about something that might just be more important than kale or burpees:

the way we talk to ourselves.

Because let’s face it, our bodies are kind of like toddlers. They soak up everything we say. And if we keep feeding them negativity, they throw tantrums in the form of low motivation, resistance to change, or that mysterious urge to binge Netflix instead of going for a walk.

🚫 Negative Self-Talk: Why Your Body Resists Change Imagine your brain is your slightly dramatic personal assistant. If you keep saying, “Ugh, I’ll never stick to this,” your assistant immediately puts it in the “Mission Impossible” folder and stamps it with a big red NO.

It’s like telling your GPS, “I don’t know where I’m going, and honestly, I’ll probably get lost anyway.” Guess what? You will get lost.

That’s why new habits feel like dragging a stubborn mule up a hill — you’ve already convinced yourself you’ll fail before you even begin.

Here’s the thing: you’d never talk to your best friend like that (I hope). You wouldn’t say:

• “Oh, don’t bother trying, you’ll quit by Thursday.”

• “Wow, that salad doesn’t make up for the pizza you had last night.”

• “Honestly, you’re just not cut out for exercise.”

If you would say that to a friend… we may need to stage an intervention 😅.

💕 Positive Self-Talk: Your Built-In Hype Squad

Now, imagine flipping the script. You start saying things like:

• “I’m proud of myself for moving today, even if it was only 10 minutes.”

• “I’m learning to nourish my body, not punish it.”

• “Every step counts. Progress > perfection.”

Suddenly, your brain perks up like a puppy who just heard the treat jar open. It goes, “Wait… we’re encouraging ourselves now? Okay boss, let’s roll with that.”

And when your brain believes you can, your body follows. The walk feels lighter. That glass of water doesn’t feel like a punishment compared to soda. And little by little, habits stick — not because you forced them, but because you finally stopped fighting yourself.

🌟 Practical Tips to Rewire Your Self-Talk

Alright, pep talk aside, let’s get real. How do you actually do this without feeling like a cheesy Instagram quote board? Here are some down-to-earth tips:

1. Catch the bully in your brain.

That inner critic? Yeah, it’s loud. When you notice negative chatter, stop and ask: Would I say this to my best friend? If not, reframe it. Example:

• Instead of “I’m so lazy,” try “I’m learning to show up more for myself.”
  

2. Start ridiculously small.

Don’t tell yourself you’ll work out an hour a day if you haven’t even stretched since last Christmas. Start with 5–10 minutes. Wins build momentum.

3. Celebrate effort, not perfection.

Perfection is a scam. Celebrate the tiny stuff: choosing stairs, doing 10 squats while the kettle boils, walking the dog an extra block. 🎉

4. Add the magic word: “yet.”

“I can’t do push-ups” becomes “I can’t do push-ups yet.” Instant growth mindset.

5. Say it out loud (yes, out loud).

It feels silly, but your brain believes things faster when it hears them in your own voice. Try: “I’m proud I moved today” or “I’m learning to treat myself with kindness.”

6. Replace punishment with curiosity.

Instead of: “Ugh, I failed my diet,” try: “Hmm, why was I craving that? What can I do differently next time?” Curiosity moves you forward, punishment keeps you stuck.

😂 A Dash of Humour (Because We All Need It) - and this year has been just plain interesting...eye roll....

Let’s be honest: some days motivation feels like a toddler hiding under the bed. You have to bribe it to come out. That’s okay.

Think of negative self-talk like the annoying backseat driver we all hate. “You’re going the wrong way! You’ll never make it!” Do you keep them in the car? Nope. You pull over, politely tell them to zip it, and enjoy the drive at your own pace.

🧘‍♀️ Movement and Self-Talk: A Perfect Pair

Here’s something I’ve learned: movement and self-talk go hand in hand. When you walk, run, lift, or dance, it’s not just your body moving — it’s your confidence moving too.

So next time you’re mid-squat, instead of thinking, “I hate this,” try:

• “Look at me go.”

• “My legs are strong and capable.”

• “I’m building the future me, one rep at a time.”

Yes, it sounds corny. But hey — corny gets results.

✨ Final Thoughts for today

Your body is listening — always. It hears the harsh words, the sighs, the “I’ll never be able to do this.” But it also hears the encouragement, the “I’m proud of myself,” and the “I can try again tomorrow.”

If you speak to yourself with love and respect, your body won’t resist new habits — it will lean into them.

So this week, here’s a challenge: every time you catch yourself saying something negative about your body or your progress, flip it into something kind.

Because at the end of the day, your relationship with yourself is the longest one you’ll ever have. Might as well make it a good one. 💕 Have a great week everyone and see you all next week!